The Big "C" Word: Consent


There’s a lot of talk coming at you from all angles about sex, what it is, when you should do it, and you’ve probably been hearing the word “consent” thrown around. 

But what is it? And how do you give consent? 
Consent is basically another word for agreement, and it’s super important when it comes to sex and relationships. Let’s break down a couple situations where you may or may not want to give consent.

  • You’re on the bus and you know you look good. You just got new braids in, and of course people notice. A girl sits next to you and asks to touch you hair. You obviously don’t want anybody touching your hair, so you say no. You did not give consent to be touched. Simple, right?

  • But sometimes it gets a little more serious. Maybe you’re hanging out with someone you’ve been feeling for a while, and the vibes are flowing and you’re enjoying yourself. One things leads to another and he (or she) asks if you’re ready to take things to the next level and have sex. You feel comfortable, and you’re ready. To give consent, you gotta give a for sure “yes”. No yes, no sex.

  • What about if you’re hanging out with someone you’re not feeling and things start to get uncomfortable? Only “yes” means yes. Silence is a no and a shrug is a no. If you don’t feel comfortable, you can tell the person to leave, or remove yourself from the situation. The only thing that means yes is a verbal yes.

Remember, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do, and only yes means yes!

Got any other questions or want to learn more about consent? Remember that your girl Layla’s always there for you.  

Caitlin Kummeth